Success on Your Terms. Be the Change With These Simple Tips

It’s a fact. Most people don’t like change. Change has two very different sides. On the one hand, it can be positive, exciting and joyful; on the other hand, too much change feels overwhelming, messy, time-consuming, and takes up a lot of energy we simply don’t feel we have. It means jumping out of our deeply rooted comfort zone. Deep down, we might still long for change and a desire to feel more successful, happy, and content with our choices in life.

So what can we do if we desire change but don’t want all the discomfort that comes with it?

We must STOP the inner chatterbox and break down our LIMITING BELIEFS. We need to start LISTENING inwards rather than just ACTING.

We need to LET GO and subtract before we can ADD. We need to BALANCE our feminine (being) and masculine energies (doing).

They say to make a vision board and start goal setting. I say…

…get out of your head and take a day or two to get blissfully pampered! Yes, I mean it, literally. Focus on YOU and your heart’s and body’s deepest desires. Give yourself that luxury treatment, that first-class experience you might only dream of giving yourself and yet we all deserve so profoundly, regularly. What you decide to pamper yourself with is irrelevant as long as you deeply enjoy it, may it be a bath, a walk, an uninterrupted long night’s sleep at a hotel, a concert or a massage. 

At first, it might feel strange to care for yourself so profoundly, especially if you’re not used to it. Try to get into the FEELING of change rather than forcing and creating change with your MENTAL knowledge. That part comes, but only later.

What is Change?

When we talk about change, it’s quite often all about those big, stepping-up visual goals like changing jobs, moving houses, losing weight or running a marathon. We don’t really talk about the small changes behind closed doors within us, and I want to shed light on those. Because those tiny changes are the ones that genuinely help us initiate change for good. And they are the motors for the big changes. 

You Already Know

I wish I could tell you that all you need to do is a 10 min meditation, scribble down a few ideas on a piece of paper and glue those cool dreams on your vision board and you’re done manifesting change for the new year.  

I wish I could tell you that you could delegate implementing change to a partner or a therapist, or a coach like myself. 

I wish I could tell you it doesn’t matter where you look for inspiration and goal setting. 

I wish I could tell you that hiring the “best” therapist or joining that “best” education program is the answer. 

I wish I could tell you that trying harder, doing it all by yourself, working more and performing your life is the answer to bringing about change.

It just doesn’t work that way.

There Is Only One Answer

 And that answer is YOU - Trusting yourself and your inner wisdom and listening deeply. Journal if that’s your thing. Get a coach to help sort things out.

 Creating that mental space. Seeing, validating, and understanding yourself and your own unique human design, desires and natural talents and gifts. 

Creating from within. 

Creating and living Your success story.

Creating space for a life you LOVE. 

The Outside Affects The Inside 

Look around your home or your office. Look more closely at the space and the objects, the people and the environment that surrounds you. How does it make you feel? Ask yourself: 

• Are you relaxed and at peace? Does it uplift you and make you smile?
• Is it beautiful, tidy, and organised?
• Do the people around you make you feel seen, heard and loved?
• Are you anxious and stressed by unfinished tasks?
• Is it messy and chaotic? Cluttered?
• Is clutter causing tension in your home/your office/your relationships?
• Do the people around you cause you stress and pressure?

We start feeling out of control whenever we feel overwhelmed by clutter or emotional stress. We don’t know where to start or how to fix things, and we freeze—paralysis analysis. We do nothing. 

I know these feelings better than you can imagine. Why? Because I’ve been there too. When your stuff (physical and/or emotional) takes over, it’s hard to truly feel at ease. When you lose control, it’s hard to know where to start. 

When the external and/or internal mess piles up, it’s hard to feel at home. Within your physical home and your bodily home, and your own skin. 

Make sure to find a way to create environments that lift you up and take good care of all homes - your body, your living spaces and your work environment.

Mental Health Check-In For An Amazing Life

• I’m feeling great
• I’m doing ok
• I’m starting to struggle
• I’m having a hard time
• I need to reach out for support

Let Go and Live More Simply

In today’s consumerism society, it’s hard to be heard if you feel and think differently. I dare to challenge this and invite you to my world and the philosophy of life that We already have all we need and where we allow ourselves to let go of all that doesn’t serve us.

Guilt free.

Shame free.

Of course, we will need to acquire certain things from time to time, but on a general level, we have more than we need of everything. And at the end of the day, this movement of transforming your physical and mental environments translates into

• More freedom to do what you love
• More time to focus on loved ones
• More harmonious relationships
• Less anxiety and overwhelm
• More space to receive what you desire

I know I certainly don’t have it all figured out, but being more aware is the first and most crucial step. 

So, what does your success look like? I would love to hear all about them. 

Happy creating, and all my love.

 Helena Zachariassen is a mum of 2, an expert in simplifying and home organising, and a lover of all things beautiful in life. A certified KonMari Consultant and Lifestyle Coach, she is the founder of Switzerland’s first KonMari and Lifestyle Coaching Consultancy - My Happy Home. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring people of any walk of life by organising their living spaces according to the KonMari Method by simply choosing joy.

Having her roots in Finland, the Nordic country of pure, quiet, and beautiful wilderness, and being deeply inspired by nature, beauty and simplicity, Helena lovingly encourages and supports her clients in transforming their homes into havens of serenity.